How open are you about your rape fantasy kink?

[chloevee]

The person I was with when I was young and first discovering rape fantasy kink knew about it in great detail. (That's when we came across RU.) But since then, I haven't been with anyone that I trusted enough to bring it up with.

Someone once confessed to me that she had rape fantasies, and she thought there was something wrong with her. I told her that I did too, that it was fairly common, and shared my thoughts about why it may be so prevalent among women. But I didn't go into any personal details about the nature of my fantasies or anything.

I'm not opposed to being open about my feelings with friends or partners, given the right kind of relationship and enough trust.

Nobody that I know in my normal life knows about my writing though, and I plan to keep it that way.

[Brazen]

I guess I've been lucky since I've never really hid this fetish from most of my partners. My current wife really likes non consent roleplay. Other women I've been with have had their own rape fantasies, and have had pretty open conversations about the topic. One even described it as "random free sex." The weird thing is I've only discussed this kink with one male friend.

[VictimEyes]

In the world outside the Ravishment Academy, my rape fantasies are and must remain my 'Dirty little secret'.

[Songbird]

An ex of mine knows, but nobody else, and I will probably keep it that way, online adventures aside.

[Claire]

I find it interesting and also soothing that I'm not alone with my secrecy surrounding this topic. It's sometimes fascinating to me how open I talk about this stuff here and how small a role it plays in my life outside of here. I wonder whether the taboo around our fantasies will ever go away, at least o the degree that people feel safe to talk about this with partners and close friends.

[Songbird]

it's not impossible that I would tell somebody else if I were that close with them. It's a hard bridge to cross but it's actually an important one to me. A part of who I am.

These kinds of fantasies are common, on both sides of the equation. One day I hope it will be more understood that it is okay to have them.

[MasterKey]

Not open at all. For various reasons I'm pretty isolated from people - most of my contact is online. And I've hardly spoken to real-world people about my fantasies, much less those considered... extreme.

[Neighbor]

I learned that there is a potentially enormous legal liability. It is something best not advertised among family and community.

But 3 quick stories: First wife (24 yrs) she met a millionaire and separated fm me for 3 yrs, then divorced. Told family her greatest regret was that I kept her on a pedestal and never let my 'darker side' play with her.

Then GF (5 yrs), after month, I tied her spread eagle with sheets one night when she was in a 'bad mood and feeling abusive'. Changed her mood for the better, and she became nuts about non-con roleplay. We agreed to a split 5 yrs later, not sharing enough mutual interests outside the bedroom.

The 2nd wife (26 yrs), a couple yrs into our marriage, I asked, "What do you want for your birthday?" It turned out there was this Movie on a Cd that she wanted in her collection called "50 Shades Of Grey". She passed a few months ago. We had a very happy marriage.

[Mrsnathpall]

Only my husband and my brother know.

I feel the rest of people in my world wouldn't understand.

[SoftGameHunter]

My wife knows, since we ended up doing some light bondage on our first date. We've been together now for fifteen years, married for ten of them, and I still haven't figured out how I pulled that one off. But it let me know she was a keeper. She's not much for reading my stories. I got her on RU once, but she only posted a few times before deciding it wasn't her thing.

She let slip to one of her friends once that we practice bondage. It was no big deal since her friend has indulged a few times too, though I think not routinely. That was kind of funny. She wasn't surprised that we do bondage, but she was surprised that I'm not the sub. ??? How on Earth do I come across as the sub? That's just weird to me. She was also put off that I mentioned posting smut stories online and can whip off a thousand or two words in a day. She's a literary type and struggles to write literary stories at a few hundred words a day. I don't know what she's writing or how often, but yeah, I can write fast, and usually with a decent-quality outcome. So that was the biggest issue there, not that it's really an issue at all. The whole thing was quite amusing.